Great article Kristy! I would add that in choosing wisely now, I think that choosing not to date someone is just as valid a choice as choosing who . When we're young, I think you would probably agree that dating a bunch of different people would be a mistake. But yeah, great article, and it's what we need to hear. It's so easy to fall into the trap of loving someone who the Lord didn't have for us, and looking away from faults that really need to be addressed. I have a friend who started in on a relationship with someone who he later found out wasn't even a Christian, and now he's hurt and having a really hard time breaking up. Might pray for him if you think about it. But anyway, thanks Kristy!

There are others out there infact I have met a few young men who are staying strong and following after what they know to be true and righteous. The thing I have come to understand is that there is a serious attack on the men of this generation pornography is at its peak and sexual morality is at an all time low. Guys are having a hard time right now. They are seeing woman dress more and more provocative and they are becomming more sexually attracted to women. I have a couple guy friends that I talk to about this sort of thing (trying to get insight) and they say that it is hard to look at some girls with the way they present themselves and not be sexually attracted to them. The girls of this generation need to get their heads on straight, they(we) are causing our own problem when it comes to guys being so overly occupied with sex. Any way I wanted to let you know that there are a couple real men out there that will be on the same standard you have put yourself on. Good luck and use those spiritual eyes to find one not your mind or your heart, they'll try to trick you.
-Charity

If you have made those mistakes and reaped the mounds of hurt and remorse, take comfort in our Lord and Savoiur's goodness and grace to know that His forgiveness is given freely when asked.

In weak and forgetful moments, I worry that the day the God-fearing Christian the Lord is leading me to spend my life with is made known to me, my mistakes will be the disappointment and disgrace that drives a spike in that potential relationship. I'm sure that any of you who may have suffered through the effects of poor decisions can share this thought with me. But hope is not lost!!! There is One who has forgiven, and His is the only forgiveness required. Until we can trust fully in God's saving grace to understand that we are His child and He accepts us as clean through Jesus, we will never be set free in our love and relationship with Him.

I cannot depend on my future spouse (whoever they may be) to fill the hole I created in my life in the acts which ultimately separated me from my God. Only my God can refill those holes permanently to make me whole in Him. God loves more freely and deeply than any man or woman could. Jesus' love is so awesome and beyond comprehension and He always accepts us and always loves us. From this should our comfort and strength be drawn, and not the prospects of a person unknown who in nature is fallible by choice and thus capable of disappointing us.

This is not to alienate or berate any other human out there nor the marriage relationship, but to make us realize that our fulfillment will never be found in any other than Jesus open, loving arms.

So date Jesus, sing to Jesus, confide in Jesus, cry on Jesus' shoulder, and love Him so fully that you don't realize where you've been or who may or may not be in your life!