Comments on: Is Pornography Really Wrong?

By: Carolina

Carolina — Thu, 09 Oct 2003 09:28:58 +0000

Tim, this article is great. The part about the rats was so interesting and really showed a lot about the power of addiction. Thanks for the reminder too about loving those who are struggling, with sexual addictions, or any type of problem. As Christians, it is our job, to come alongside those who are struggling, not to shun them for being human. Thanks again!

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 21 Mar 2004 11:58:16 +0000

Praise God for the revelation that he has given you continue to keep your ear open to hear what the Spirit of the Lord is sayin.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 26 May 2004 20:05:10 +0000

If someone is not willing to admit that pornography is wrong, and that it is actually a form of adultery, is it under the law "God's law" grounds for divorce?

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Thu, 01 Jul 2004 16:44:02 +0000

great article

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Mon, 30 Aug 2004 09:57:28 +0000

Is it pornography wrong if veiwed with a spouse?

By: mpduguay

mpduguay — Sat, 11 Sep 2004 00:48:42 +0000

Regarding the 'with a spouse' issue. I would say yes because you are still lusting over those other people. You only have to right to lust over your wife and her you. (Obviously after marriage).

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 17 Sep 2004 17:16:41 +0000

Pornography viewed with a spouse is no only "wrong", but incredibly damaging to both of partners. Sex (in Marriage) is something only you two can share with each other, all meaning is lost if it is opened up to others, even through pornography. Besides, why would you want to support a disgusting porn industry?

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 07 Nov 2004 18:50:57 +0000

I will say YES! Pornography is very WRONG. I married a man whom I thought he was, but he's not. He is a pornography addict. He'll do everything just to see images at the internet. He lies a lot. This is really killing me. He just doesn't get it how much I am affected and our marriage. I married him like 6 months ago. I am suffering and I am so much in pain. He promised me not to do it again but I catch him red-handed all the time. I don't know what to do anymore. I am crying a lot. I pray to God all the time for us…

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 07 Nov 2004 18:55:33 +0000

I will say YES! Pornography is very WRONG. I married to a man whom I thought he was, but he's not. He is a pornography addict. He'll do everything just to see images at the internet. He lies a lot. This is really killing me. He just doesn't get it how much I am affected and our marriage. I married him like 6 months ago. I am suffering and I am so much in pain. He promised me not to do it again but I catch him red-handed all the time. I don't know what to do anymore. I am crying a lot. I pray to God all the time for us…

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 09 Nov 2004 05:25:51 +0000

Pornography is very much wrong. I have been struggling with pornography for over ten years. I am a married man, and I am a clergyman. It has damaged my walk with the Lord. I felt for the woman who wrote earlier about her husband. I see the pain in my wife's eyes when I confess, it kills me. Much more is the pain when I realize I have caused Christ pain. Satan seems often to when the battle in my life. I guess I am requesting prayer for my addiction and for strength in my marriage. Jesus has the power, all power to heal this.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 05 Dec 2004 17:56:15 +0000

i say yes it is wrong. my husband sees nothing wrong with it,and he told me he won't stop. i firmly believe that sex should be shared between husband and wife. he thinks sex is overrated, and isn't important. i can't understand why he does it. we have two boys, and i don't want them to do it. he says they will because it's just what men do. he won't change and i've threatened divorce. is there any hope for a man who won't change? i don't want to lose my marriage over smut!

By: chouser

chouser — Thu, 08 Sep 2005 10:27:48 +0000

I am so sorry to hear about and will pray for the people here who are experiencing issues in their marriage due to pornography.

I heard an interview between Dr. James Dobson and convicted and executed serial killer Ted Bundy. You can read the article and transcript at this location: http://www.pureintimacy.org/gr/intimacy/understanding/a0000082.cfm

Ted states that pornograph was not THE factor, but a leading contributor to his murderous behavior.

I feel that any time you flirt with fantasy long enough, there becomes the desire to step over into reality. The fantasy experience makes the step to reality that much closer.

By: chouser

chouser — Thu, 08 Sep 2005 10:30:05 +0000

I am so sorry to hear about and will pray for the people here who are experiencing issues in their marriage due to pornography.

Ted states that pornograph was not THE factor, but a leading contributor to his murderous behavior.

I feel that any time you flirt with fantasy long enough, there becomes the desire to step over into reality. The fantasy experience makes the step to reality that much closer.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sat, 28 Apr 2007 22:57:28 +0000

I just got done writing a personal essay about my experience with porn addiction. i never realized how power it was till i wrote it all out. i fully believe it to be the number one most destructive force in my life.
i believe the solution to the problem will never be behavior control. while any break is welcome, will power and controlled circumstances will never never never fix my heart where the whole problem lies.
i’m not married yet but it breaks my heart to know that i have to tell the woman i love about my addiction. and hopefully by gods grace she will be a woman who will be willing to fight with me against the beast. but i know that i have never loved any of the images. NEVER.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 06 May 2007 06:52:08 +0000

Why is it that this is considered a “man’s issue?” Women struggle with this, too. I’m currently in the early stages of trying to break this bond, having come up against it and fallen time and time again. It seems that even in everyday conversations, the general opinion is that women don’t have sexual addictions like men do. That’s so frustrating!!!!! Most of the stuff that I’ve seen, as far as resources, are directed at men. So if anyone has any ideas of resources for women, I’d really appreciate it. Also, prayer is a huge issue, but I also need to somehow ask my “accountability partners” for some more direct help, although I don’t know what that direct accountability will entail. We never actually meet or talk about the important stuff, as we meet in a public place, so something needs to change. Please pray for all of this! Thank you.

By: Amy

Amy — Wed, 16 May 2007 02:32:15 +0000

I would say with the majority here is that pornography is definately wrong, and i also know that it is a struggle not just for males but for females as well. But to those of you who have friends or know someone who is struggling with pornography and what it leads to (ie. masturbation etc.) i can attest to the power of accountability and honesty. One of my best male friends has struggled majorly with this issue, and is only just coming out the other side after a couple of years of fighting it. His freedom began when he confessed to me his problems, and started relating his struggles with me. from then on i made him become accountable to me, and to be completely honest with me. i followed God’s leading in buying him a book called ‘Every Young Man’s Battle’ and the first time he read it, he literally cried. That book was one of the keys to fighting this terrible addiction. from then on he joined XXXchurch, and set himself up with a male accountability partner who was able to offer him his personal experiences and how he got out of the problems.

I guess what i am saying, is that if you know a friend who is struggling with pornography continue to keep on praying for them, and encouraging them. push them to fight the addiction and to find someone to be completely accountable to. If you are struggling with it, the beginning of freedom is confession. and i know that there is the hesitation of being judged by fellow Christians, but you would be surprised at how many people have gone, and are going through this long struggle.

God bless you all who are still struggling!

Amy
Sister in Christ

By: Claire28

Claire28 — Fri, 01 Jun 2007 23:43:08 +0000

I agree that Pornography and all sorts of sexual addictions and impurity are not just a problem relating to Men. (I am a woman, and can testify to the lure of internet pornography and erotica.)

I have just recently joined this site which offers a free Sexual Purity Course. I’m 10 days into it, and its amazingly good! I’m reading verses and stories that I have read over and over again, and getting completely new spins on them:

http://www.settingcaptivesfree.com/course/

Give it a try! For both men and women, we’ve got nothing to lose but our addicitons!

God Bless, Claire

By: keith

keith — Tue, 05 Jun 2007 20:54:38 +0000

What if you are single?

By: Dr. Carter

Dr. Carter — Mon, 25 Jun 2007 21:46:09 +0000

For those you are looking for a good Bible Study to help with porn or sexual addiction the book “Breaking the Bonds of Pornography” is now available. It is excellent for individual help or for a group of men or ladies to get help. The author is Robert Carter.

By: Phil

Phil — Tue, 26 Jun 2007 21:44:20 +0000

For anyone struggling with sexual addiction, there can be freedom - no matter what the circumstances. That is why our Savior died - to set us free. We can never through our own efforts break free, not with any 12-step program or through any amount of accountability if our hearts are not changed.
I IMPLORE any of you struggling with pornography to sign up and persevere and prayerfully go through the Way of Purity course on the website http://www.settingcaptivesfree.com
This ministry is completely Christ-centered and God has used it in my life to set me free from years of addiction to internet pornography. Do not lose hope, but seek help.
I don’t work for the ministry or anything like that.. I have just been so unbelievably blessed to find freedom in Christ through this ministry that I want many many others to find the same blissful freedom.

Free indeed,
Phil

By: Internet Pornography Addiction

Internet Pornography Addiction — Sat, 11 Aug 2007 07:49:39 +0000

There are certainly diverging views between the world and those who see pornography as destructive. Millions of people are currently struggling with this addiction and it is eroding our society. It can be compared to the Roman empire which defeated itself morally, except the whole world is in on this problem. We must make a personal stand to be different as individuals as the world decays around us. Good Post!